It seems to be quite often that I talk to people who tell me they really don’t like their careers, plan to do something else but are just waiting for the time to be right. For the planets to align. For who knows what.
For the most part, they never stop talking about it (how frustrated, often miserable they are) but never seem to quit, find a new path, make a U-turn, take a chance, extract themselves from the morass that deprives them of the exhilaration life has to offer to those who reach for it.
I have never understood this feet in quicksand way of living. Whether it applies to a career, business strategies, artistic endeavors, relationshipships: if it’s not working, it if fails to bring passion and joy, if it is like going through the motions in wet clothes and heavy boots, it needs to be tossed, junked, bypassed, viewed as an experiement that failed, that we learned from and that we use as a launch pad for a new adventure into the wild blue yonder.
None of these excuses to remain stalled in a hopeless holding pattern ring true. None of them work. Zero are authenic. All of them lies designed to buy time, to postone the pain and/or fear that will come for awhile as you walk the shaky bridge to a new life, a new business, a career change, a relationship that actually needs no work and affords immeasurable rewards:
- I will do it next year
- I just need to get my head straight
- I want to play out the one chance that it will turn around on its own
- Maybe this was meant to be
- Perhaps this is the best I can hope for
Even as we udder the words, we know they are lies. But what is often not nearly as clear, is that as long as we cling to the excuses, we are doing far more and far worse that getting stuck in the straits of nowhere.
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